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LIVE IN THE PRESENT, LEARN FROM THE PAST

I moved to the city ten days ago. I grew up in rural North Carolina on a farm. My father grew soybeans, corn, and, my favorite sweet potatoes. He made a good living, but it was back-breaking work. We all helped out when it was time to harvest the crops. I made a promise to myself that when I graduated from high school, I was going to move to the city up North.

18th Century farm

And I kept that promise to myself. Halfway through my senior year in high school, I started surfing the web job market in the Philadelphia area. Luckily, I had taken as many courses in high school and some night adult classes to prepare me for office work. I spent the months before graduation sending out resumes to companies that I researched on Google. I didn’t get any responses for the first couple of weeks, and I began to get a little nervous. I was just about to give up when I received a text and then an email from Colonia Pennsylvania Preservation in Newton Square. It turned out that it was an eighteenth-century living history farm. I hoped I wasn’t making a mistake, but I was desperate. I wanted to move up north and away from the rural south.

I called the number they sent me and ask if I could speak to the person in charge of hiring new employees. I waited a few minutes, and then a man who identified himself as Mr. Charles Daley said he was so pleased that I had responded to his email. He believed I would be perfect for the position that he was trying to fill. I said, really? Because I don’t remember sending a resume to your company. He said my resume had been forwarded to him by a close friend who thought I would be a perfect fit. Farm North Carolina

“Really, what position is it? He said, “it is the assistant Program Manager for a Historic Farm in Gradyville, Pa.” I hadn’t heard of Gradyville, Pa. But, then I really didn’t know any other city except Philadelphia. He said, “it‘s about a two-hour drive to Philly from Gradyville to Philadelphia. He knew it must seem like a long trek, but I would have a vehicle at my disposal and would have two days a week off during the week since they were busiest on the weekends.

I said, “well, honestly, Mr. Daley, I really do not want to do any farm work, I’ve been doing it most of my life, and I was looking forward to a different kind of challenge. He said, “well this will be a new challenge I believe you have the skill set and the knowledge for this position. “You will be the assistant Farm Manager, but most of your time will be teaching students about active participation in historic farm practices and skills that made 18th-century life possible.”

“Really?” And you think that I will be up to that challenge? I have only been out of school for one year, and I hope to work in an office.”

“ You will be working in an office at times and in the field with students. You will be coordinating weekend programs and events for children, visitors, and volunteers, including weekly field trips and summer camps. You will be overseeing the planting and weeding harvesting of crops. And teach the continuation of heritage variety seeds. In addition, maintaining the necessary supply of feed and bedding for the farm animals.”

“Wow, that sounds like a huge undertaking, and you believe I’m up to that?”

I spoke to all your references, and they gave you glowing reports. You will also be working in an outreach program in the Philadelphia area seeking new students, schools, and donations. So, I can safely say you will have every opportunity to visit the city. I would like to assure you that you will be starting off with a full benefits package and thirty- five thousand dollars for the first Year. And up to forty-thousand the following year. “

“I said, “wow, I’m impressed, but perhaps I should come to The Farm and get a better idea of what I would be doing from day to day. And you would have the opportunity to meet me in person and see if I am the right person for this opportunity.”

“Well, how about you come here for a week, and then you will have a clearer picture of what your position would entail and the quality of people who work here? How about that? Of course, we will pay for your travel expenses. Why don’t you take a day or two to think about it and then call me back at this same number and give me your decision.”

“Alright, I will have to look into taking a train when I have that information, I will let you know, and hopefully, you can arrange for someone to come and pick me up at the train station.”

“Yes, certainly, I can do that. Text me when you know when and where we should pick you up. It’s been great talking to you. Talk to you soon, Elizabeth. Good Bye for now.”

Three days later, I made my decision. I have to admit that my parents put a lot of pressure on me to accept the job. Although, they weren’t crazy about me living so far away from the farm. The more I thought about it, the more excited I got. I have to admit I still had doubts about having that much responsibility. On the other hand, I had a great deal of responsibility working on our family farm my entire life. I started helping out when I entered grade school. And my responsibility increased the older I got. And perhaps fate had stepped into my path with this opportunity, and I decided I would be a fool to let it pass me by.

I notified Mr. Daley that I decided to take his job offer, and I sent him the schedule for the train that I would be taking from Raleigh to the Gradyville area. And then I found out that I could get a train station near Gradyville. And when and where I could be picked up. For the entire week before I left for my new life, I was torn between fear and excitement. I was having a lot of difficulty falling asleep at night.

But, before I knew it, there were only two days before my departure date arrived. Although my parents were happy, I was hired for such a prestigious position, and I could tell it was hard for them to say goodbye. Especially my mother, who cried for three days before I left. They took me to the train and watched me board, and then they stood there until my train began to depart and waved at the train long after they could no longer see me.

I was amazed at how fast the train traveled and how quickly I arrived in the North East. What I could see of the passing landscape was not that different than North Carolina. But as we got closer to Grandyville, I could see that I had once again arrived in a rural area. I knew that I had planned to try and live in the city, and that didn’t happen. But, I also knew that with a short train ride, I could visit Philadelphia and, maybe one day, New York City.

When the train finally arrived, I saw two people standing at the train station holding up a sign that said, “Welcome Elizabeth to Colonial Pennsylvania Plantation. And there was a young man holding it and waving it frantically, which made me laugh. I waited until the train came to a complete stop before I stood up and grabbed my bags from under my seat. And then, I had to wait patiently for everyone else on the train to do the same. We slowly progressed up the train aisle and waited until it was our turn to step off the train. And I could begin my new life. I have to admit I was excited, especially when I saw that I wasn’t going to be the only young person working at the farm.

I walked up to the people waiting for me, and the woman that was standing next to the young man said, “Welcome, Elizabeth. We are so happy that you decided to take our job offer. You are the perfect candidate for the job. You have your whole lifetime of experience in farm life in a rural area, and I know you will bring that expertise to our clients.”

“Thank you, I hope I will be able to fulfill all your needs. I have to say I was surprised that you would consider hiring me since I haven’t really had any other work experience outside of working on our farm. “Well, your teachers all gave you an A +. And they assured us that you were mature for your age and a hard worker who was always on top of things and strove to surpass any expectations that they had. By the way, I’m Jimmy Daley, and this is Ms. Christine Simmons. So, let’s be on our way. Is that all your belongings? “It’s all I brought with me on the train, and I’m having the rest of my things shipped here. They should arrive by the end of the week. I look forward to seeing the farm.

The time seemed to fly by as Elizabeth watched the landscape go by. As they got closer to the farm, she started to feel more at home. She knew it would take a while for her to adapt to her new home and live away from her parents and the home she had lived her whole life. She started to feel excited and less fearful. She was looking forward to the challenges that she would have to meet in her new job. She had every intention of doing everything within her power to succeed. But still, she kept her fingers crossed that all would go well.

And then she heard Jimmy Daley say, “well, here we are. That didn’t take that long, did it? I hope we meet your expectations and that you will be happy here. If there is ever a problem, you know you can come to me, and we will work it out. Don’t be bashful.”

And that was the beginning of my new life. And it truly was a new beginning. I worked hard every day, but it was certainly a learning process. I interacted with people from all over the country. People who were interested in how farmers ran their farms in the eighteenth century. People knew there was a lot to learn from the past that could be assimilated into present-day farms. The past became my present, and I looked forward to it. Every morning I awoke, I was excited about what that day would bring me. And every day, I learned something new. I planned my first trip to Philadelphia, and Jimmy Daley invited himself along. I learned that life is what you make of it.

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A CHRISTMAS CAROL

Can you believe it I’m driving by myself all the way from New Jersey to Santa Barbara, California? I ‘ve been planning this trip for months. I packed all my worldly belongings and put them in the trunk and back seat of my vintage yellow VW.

According to my calculations, I’ll have to drive forty-five hours and eighteen minutes. It ‘s a two thousand eight hundred and sixty- nine-mile drive. I’m going to drive for seven hours a day. If I drive sixty miles per hour, I will arrive in Santa Barbara in seven days.

This is going to be the best Christmas of my life. It is my coup de gras. I was hired as the head buyer for the women’s hat and wig department at Robinson’s Department Store.

A Christmas Carol

You know it’s true what they say about LinkedIn. There are only two degrees of separation from you and someone who will help you achieve your goal. That’s how I got the job at Robinson’s Department Store. My old college roomie Bernadette knows the head of human resources at Robinson’s. She helped me get the job.

I know it’s all going to work out. I’m just outside the city limits of Oklahoma City, and my stomach starts growling. I pull into a Burger King. And order a burger and fries and sit down in a corner booth. I practically inhale the food.

I know that soon my days of eating alone will be over. I ditch the trash as I walk out to my car.  I turn on the ignition. The engine starts up but makes a grinding noise when I try back up. A really nice older man walks over to my car. After looking it over, he says, “Mam, I’m sorry to tell you, but it looks like you are going to need a new transmission.”

In my head, I’m screaming. I only have enough money to get to Santa Barbara and survive until my first paycheck. When he delivers this news, my eyes tear up. He takes one look at me. I see that fight or flight look in his eyes, like a deer caught in the headlights.

“Mam, now don’t start crying, lord. I can’t bear to see a woman in tears. Let me call my friend; he has an auto repair shop. I’ll get him to come and tow your car to his shop.”

I end up having to stay overnight in this seedy motel, called Bo Joe’s hotel and Gift Shop. It smells like a teenage boy’s gym locker, moldy gym clothes, and a forgotten tuna fish sandwich.

I take a shower. Just as I’m drying off with a towel the size of a napkin, my cell phone rings. It’s the guy from the garage. He has to order a part, but my car should be fixed late this afternoon. He’ll give me a call. I’m almost afraid to ask him how much.

“It only going to be six hundred dollars because I’m giving you a break on the labor charge.”

God, I hate to know what it would cost if he weren’t giving me a break. I’ll have to put it on my Visa card. Crap. I walk across the street and have a tasty breakfast of burnt toast and greasy eggs at a place called Good Eats, a very misleading name. I sit on the torn leather seat, sipping my lukewarm bitter coffee. How can it be so bitter? Was it heated up from the day before? I leave a fifty-cent tip for the over-the-hill waitress.

I walk up and down the street. None of the stores are open except for a drug store. I walk up and down the isles and decide to buy a paperback book called Your Heart’s Desire.  I take it as a sign that everything is going to work out. This car trouble is just a little bump on my road to true love and happiness.

At four o’clock, my cell rings. It’s the mechanic. “Mam, your car is ready I can send Randy over to pick you up if you like.”

I like.  By five o’clock, I’m back on the road towards Paradise. I pick up the pace and drive through Amarillo, Albuquerque, then Flagstaff, and Barstow. Then I see the sign I’ve been waiting for Welcome to Santa Barbara.

It’s beautiful, the mountains on one side and the deep blue ocean on the other. I find my way to a hotel and check-in.  I can almost see the beach from my bedroom window. I unpack and start planning the rest of my life.

In the morning, I put on my favorite Versace knock-off blue, silk suit, and my favorite pale-yellow blouse. I take a final look in the mirror. I look fantastic. I head off to my first day at Robinson’s and the rest of my life. I pull into the employee’s parking lot.  I head up to the human resource office.

Allison Moore, my friend’s friend, offers me a seat in her office. “Hello, Carol, we all been looking forward to meeting you. And having you become part of our family at Robinson’s. We know you’re going to love it here. We are all sure that you will be an asset to our store. Can you fill out these papers first? Then we’ll head on down to the dining room for a light breakfast. You can meet James Madison, the head of the department store. He always meets all our new department heads on their first day. He has been on a buying trip for the past six weeks, so he hasn’t had the opportunity to read over your resume. But I know he’ll be as impressed as I am.

My heart starts beating rapidly and irregularly. I’m literally a heartbeat away from being reunited with my one and only true love, James.  I hand the papers with trembling hands to the secretary.

“Ms. Moore will be right out have a seat. “Fantastic, all the paperwork is complete. Let’s get down to the dining room and have a meet and greet with Mr. Madison.”

We get in the elevator and descend to the first floor and to the dining room. My heart is pounding out of my chest. I’m hyperventilating. I’m afraid I am going to pass out before I even see James. I see him getting out of his seat and extending his hand to me. I hear a faint buzzing in my ears and heat rising up to my head. That’s the last thing I remember until I come to. I look around somewhat dazed. There are two security guards and a police officer standing over me. “What’s happening?”

James is standing there, glaring down at me. “Officer escort this woman out of here. There’s a warrant out for her arrest in Colorado. She’s been stalking me for the past ten years. Two years ago, she drugged and kidnapped me and kept me, prisoner, for five days. Her name is Carol Damminger. She is completely insane and dangerous. Get her out of my sight.”

I’m taken in handcuffs to the squad car. “Officer, this is all just a misunderstanding. A lover’s quarrel, you’ll see.”

But they don’t see, and that’s how I ended up spending Christmas awaiting extradition to Colorado to be tried for kidnapping and unlawful restraint. But it will all work out. James and I are meant to be together. One day very soon, we will be. As soon as I have access to a computer, it will all work out. Easy peasy.